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A high school history teacher once told us, "If you make one close friend in school, you will be most fortunate. A true friend is someone who stays with you for life." Experience teachs that he was fight. Good friendship is just not easily formed. It is possible that we simply do not stay in one place long enough for true friendship to develop. However, there can be no disagreement on the need for each of us is to think carefully about the kind of friendship we want. To most of us, friendships are considered very important, but we need to have clear in our mind the kinds of friendship we want. Are they to be close or kept at arm's length? Do we want to share ourselves or & we want to walk on the surface? For some people, many friendship on the surface are quite enough--and that's all right But at some point we need to make sure that our expectations are the same as our friends' expectations. The sharing of personal experience including our tears as well as our dark dreams is the surest way te deepen friendships. But it must be undertaken(进行) slowly and carded on only if there are signs of interest and action in return. What are some of the difficulties of friendship? The greatest is the attraction to expect too much soon. Another "major difficulty" is the selfishness to think one "possesses" the other, including his time and attention. Similarly, friendships in return. In other words, you must give as much as you take. Finally there is a question of taking care of them. Unless you spend reasonable time together, talking on the phone, writing letters, doing things together, friendships will die away. |
